If you find yourself believing that relationships are inherently painful, you're not alone 🌧️. Many people carry this protective belief, often formed from past experiences or deep-seated fears

A Dating Coach on s❤︎x…

Before I go on, please know…I am not a saint.

I have made MANY mistakes when it comes to the topic of s❤︎x.

In fact, I’ll repost tomorrow the post where I talked about sleeping with two men in one day 👀

Also know that this post is INTENDED to bring up unresolved stuff in YOU….

Where there’s drama, there’s trauma.

Yep, that’s right.

Too much drama in your dating life?

Or too much trying to avoid drama yet still getting sucked into it?

It’s not you, it’s your Dating Nervous System.

I was reflecting this morning on how my definition of luxury has changed.

I used to think that luxury was in material wealth, what I accumulated, what I could buy, & what I could afford.

We’ve been taught that fear is bad.

We’ve been told that we have to push through our fears.

We’ve been rewarded for feeling the fear & doing it anyways.

I used to believe in the concept of “if it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a hell no.”

I don’t anymore though.

And here’s why.

With hindsight being 20/20 & all, I’ve realized that pretty much my whole life, people have been unsafe for me.

I have always had a big, open heart.

In the past, I have trusted quickly.

Trusted big.

& opened up my sacred heart space to anyone that seemed like they were good people.

You closing your heart - it makes sense.

You being so damn strong - it makes sense.

You relying on your horoscope - it makes sense.

You loving your animals & that’s pretty much it - it makes sense.

You unable to open your heart to another human being - it makes sense.

Why men leave you…

It’s not what you think.

It’s not because you said the wrong thing.

It’s not because you are too much.

It’s not because everything is wrong with them & nothing is wrong with you.

If you find yourself emasculating men, ask yourself, do you feel safe inside yourSELF?

Do you feel grounded & whole?

Or do you feel overwhelmed, anxious, confused or closed off?